Mercedes Coffman

But the thing is this, is that, you know, I think that because, and women say this all the time, we wanted both of the guys from the notebook to be put in a blender.

and become our ideal guy.

He just doesn't exist, just like that perfect woman doesn't exist, right?

And so I think that we are seeing more and more, you know, what media did to women as far as what women started looking for is what dating apps do for men, social media do for men, OnlyFans do for men, right?

It's that idea of what a typical woman

They don't all look like that, right?

But it's the same thing as with movies, romantic movies or rom-coms.

Women want that emotional intensity, the guy that will sing her a song and write her poetry and go deeper with her because they're looking for depth.

And sometimes they forget that depth isn't the only thing.

And so in a lot of these movies, if you notice, Chris, these guys aren't their only guy.

It is only that they get with the jackass

and Noah because their other guy didn't have the emotional availability and the romance per se that they needed.

Yeah, I mean, I would like to see kind of what that turns into because things are constantly changing, right?

So it changes people's expectations.

And I am noticing how a lot of my clients, both males and females, are adapting constantly, are trying to adapt constantly.

to what's expected nowadays.

And they're losing themselves because there's more and more of a disconnection because you're like, okay, well, I guess I got to keep up what the new thing is now.

I mean, even the reading of books, I wish that people would do more of that because that in and of itself delays gratification.

It stabilizes us and it makes us more patient and people aren't really doing it as much anymore, sadly.

So emotional readiness is a person simply saying that they would want to be in a relationship with you or that they actually have what it takes.