Mercedes Coffman

what I want and going after what I want, or my nervous system is disconnected from what my brain says I want, then how can I find connection in another person or alignment in another person?

I'm probably going to find the same misalignment.

It's just like the example you gave is that what we ultimately want as human beings is belonging.

We want to feel like we belong to a person.

So a lot of the times, the crying and the anger thing is that it's easier to be sad, which is why you'll oftentimes see people, I see that too, where on social media, people have an easier time sharing tragic situations or illnesses than they have sharing their victories.

Because there's such a judgment sometimes on, don't get too cocky.

Don't get too confident.

It could be taken away at any moment.

But there's such a, oh, at least we're all struggling, right?

And there's this belonging of shared suffering versus, well,

Why don't we do both?

Why don't we continue to be compassionate towards the suffering of others and ourselves, but also uplift ourselves and others?

Absolutely.

And a lot of people are unhealed with that because they can't just say, well, Chris has that, but I have this other thing, right?

And because we don't self-explore and we don't anchor ourselves in ourselves worth enough, we constantly are looking like the crap's in the bucket.

Like the moment one crap goes to the top and starts talking about, I'm doing good.

They're like, no, no, no, come down here.

You're not that great.

I'm good.

It's tough because everybody, you know, just like you talked about with good looking people, right?