Mercedes Coffman

There's different standards for good looking people.

They can't,

they can't re they have to minimize themselves to a certain degree.

They have to go, you know,

I think I saw something you did where I did research.

I was like, who is this Chris guy?

I did research.

How far back did you go?

No, I didn't go too far back.

But I saw something you did where someone asked you about your looks or something.

And you're like, well, I mean, yeah, sometimes it's easy to get certain things.

And then you were very humble trying to still be like, no, but it's not sometimes.

And then I was like,

that's exactly what we're talking about right here where you just you can't just go yeah I'm a good looking guy and I know it right like you you can't just say that because something in us says we have to still belong whether that is to our followers or community or clientele and so there's this thing where we don't want to outshine because belonging is the most important human need and I just think it's pretty sad because it's self-abandoning to a certain degree and

and it kind of censors our authenticity to a certain degree as well.

What was that thing you just said?

But it's true.

And, you know, I think it's quite sad because I do, I see it with my female clients and my male clients that there's just different rules that people have to play by, right?

And I think kind of like you said, we do want to see that people have worked for stuff.

Like the gym example.