Mercedes Coffman

We want to know that, okay, this body was, it was hard work that got him there.

And those people get great comments, typically, feedback-wise on social media.

But at the same time, when it comes to people's personal lives, they want to bypass that gradual process.

They want to bypass it and get the quick fixes.

And that's the same for beauty.

That's the same for jobs.

That's the same for money.

Nobody really wants to do anything that takes time or discomfort anymore.

And I think that's the issue we say we want.

the job that will pay us for the rest of our lives.

We say we want the relationship that's going to last us a lifetime.

But our nervous system is like, I've had clients who are emotionally available, will go on a date with a guy and come back and say, I just, it just wasn't really intense.

Like I just, I'm just used to that intensity and I just didn't feel it.

But I know what intensity from past patterns they're talking about.

The emotionally unavailable guy.

Yes, absolutely.

So, yes, I think that the reason why that happens is because people have created a belief that our partner is supposed to be our everything.

They're supposed to bring us excitement and stability and fire and calm.

And there are other areas in our life that could give us that.

If your relationship is stable but not intense or exciting enough, have an exciting career.