Mercedes Coffman

That's what their identity is going to be.

They're going to associate their identity with the identity of whoever you choose to have children with.

And so it's not just a, oh, we would make cute babies.

It is...

I mean, what are we teaching them as far as what love means and hard work and conflict repair and emotional availability and what kind of person to be?

I just think that a lot of times people...

make big decisions and take big risks back in the day.

And I think a lot now too, based on just the chemistry of it, because everything is about, we're just a bunch of addicts at this point.

You know, it's all about what feels good.

And if it feels good, we'll figure out how to deal with it later.

Limerence is an emotional fixation with a person that is usually fueled by uncertainty.

So some of the signs of limerence is an unusual fixation with the person, constant ruminating thoughts about the person, extreme highs and lows in your mood regarding this person, waiting and craving their validation.

And this usually happens very early on in dating.

So you don't really even know the person fully, but you just notice a deep obsession with this person.

And that would qualify as limerence, which we're seeing more and more nowadays.

Yes.

So several different people.

So the first group of people are the people who have unresolved issues as far as unresolved wounds.

So people with certain attachment styles are more likely to fall for limerence because limerence is oftentimes based on uncertainty and inconsistency.

So if you had a