Mercedes Coffman

you reframe it and say, my boundaries are not going to push them away.

My boundaries are going to keep the good person and it's going to protect the relationship because boundaries are not pushing good relationships out.

They're just protecting good relationships.

So speaking up and saying, hey, Chris, you did this one thing and it hurt my feelings and I would like for us not to do that.

That's me saying, if you want to stay in a relationship with me and if I want to protect this relationship between us,

I have to say this.

That's my advocacy for what we have.

But most people see a boundary as I'm going to hurt their feelings and they might then reject me and they don't really consider.

But the relationship has its own needs.

And if you don't speak up and you don't say what that boundary is, you are abandoning that relationship and its needs.

Thank you.

Instagram is good.

Mercedes Kaufman therapy.

And then they could also go to my website, which is on my Instagram.

Thank you.

Thank you, Chris.

I was an honor.

Bye, people.

This is fun.