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Michael Chernow

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Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

You know, like, you're, like, you're just ferocious and wanted, like, wanted all the time.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

If there is a sexual chemistry between the two of you, and there is between Donna and I, however, like anything, once you get used to something, it's hard to keep it exciting. It's hard to just be like, I can't wait. Totally. But... A few things. One, I will say, for us, communication is just even more important than routine. Communication is paramount.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

If there is a sexual chemistry between the two of you, and there is between Donna and I, however, like anything, once you get used to something, it's hard to keep it exciting. It's hard to just be like, I can't wait. Totally. But... A few things. One, I will say, for us, communication is just even more important than routine. Communication is paramount.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

If there is a sexual chemistry between the two of you, and there is between Donna and I, however, like anything, once you get used to something, it's hard to keep it exciting. It's hard to just be like, I can't wait. Totally. But... A few things. One, I will say, for us, communication is just even more important than routine. Communication is paramount.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

And that doesn't mean like, yes, it means telling your partner you love them. I'm talking about the shit that is hard to talk about. I'm talking about, like, there are people that go months and months in a relationship long-term that are not having sex and just don't ever talk about it. Ever. It's just like, and they both know that, like, this isn't good. Like, we should be having sex.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

And that doesn't mean like, yes, it means telling your partner you love them. I'm talking about the shit that is hard to talk about. I'm talking about, like, there are people that go months and months in a relationship long-term that are not having sex and just don't ever talk about it. Ever. It's just like, and they both know that, like, this isn't good. Like, we should be having sex.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

And that doesn't mean like, yes, it means telling your partner you love them. I'm talking about the shit that is hard to talk about. I'm talking about, like, there are people that go months and months in a relationship long-term that are not having sex and just don't ever talk about it. Ever. It's just like, and they both know that, like, this isn't good. Like, we should be having sex.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

But, like, once you, I think once you get out of it, because I've been there. There has been times where Donna and I have had to check each other and be like, hey, like, it's been, like, six weeks since we've had sex. We gotta go. Um, and that, yeah. And that also isn't like amazing, right? Where you're like, we got to do this just because we know it's the right thing to do.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

But, like, once you, I think once you get out of it, because I've been there. There has been times where Donna and I have had to check each other and be like, hey, like, it's been, like, six weeks since we've had sex. We gotta go. Um, and that, yeah. And that also isn't like amazing, right? Where you're like, we got to do this just because we know it's the right thing to do.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

But, like, once you, I think once you get out of it, because I've been there. There has been times where Donna and I have had to check each other and be like, hey, like, it's been, like, six weeks since we've had sex. We gotta go. Um, and that, yeah. And that also isn't like amazing, right? Where you're like, we got to do this just because we know it's the right thing to do.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

But when you get into the routine of it, so now, you know, not so now, I mean, we've been pretty good about it, but a, like, You got to talk about it if it's not going down. And if you're waiting for your partner to say something because you feel uncomfortable, that's a cue to be like, okay, I got to talk about this. And so similarly for other situations that are just uncomfortable for you.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

But when you get into the routine of it, so now, you know, not so now, I mean, we've been pretty good about it, but a, like, You got to talk about it if it's not going down. And if you're waiting for your partner to say something because you feel uncomfortable, that's a cue to be like, okay, I got to talk about this. And so similarly for other situations that are just uncomfortable for you.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

But when you get into the routine of it, so now, you know, not so now, I mean, we've been pretty good about it, but a, like, You got to talk about it if it's not going down. And if you're waiting for your partner to say something because you feel uncomfortable, that's a cue to be like, okay, I got to talk about this. And so similarly for other situations that are just uncomfortable for you.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

For instance, we were just on vacation for two and a half weeks. And when you're on vacation with someone, with kids, you're 24-7 together, and it can get tough. There are going to be moments where she gets ticked off at me, I get ticked off at her. We're together, there's no running, there's no escape, so you just got to go and battle.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

For instance, we were just on vacation for two and a half weeks. And when you're on vacation with someone, with kids, you're 24-7 together, and it can get tough. There are going to be moments where she gets ticked off at me, I get ticked off at her. We're together, there's no running, there's no escape, so you just got to go and battle.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

For instance, we were just on vacation for two and a half weeks. And when you're on vacation with someone, with kids, you're 24-7 together, and it can get tough. There are going to be moments where she gets ticked off at me, I get ticked off at her. We're together, there's no running, there's no escape, so you just got to go and battle.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

And there was a couple of those, and I think that's also healthy, but I think when you feel something in your gut or your sternum or your chest that is making you just uncomfortable about your partner, whether it's something that they're doing that's annoying, whether they say something that you don't like, It's important for me, speak for me, to just voice it like right then and there.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

And there was a couple of those, and I think that's also healthy, but I think when you feel something in your gut or your sternum or your chest that is making you just uncomfortable about your partner, whether it's something that they're doing that's annoying, whether they say something that you don't like, It's important for me, speak for me, to just voice it like right then and there.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

And there was a couple of those, and I think that's also healthy, but I think when you feel something in your gut or your sternum or your chest that is making you just uncomfortable about your partner, whether it's something that they're doing that's annoying, whether they say something that you don't like, It's important for me, speak for me, to just voice it like right then and there.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 407: Michael Chernow: How to Build a Lasting Marriage, Break Free from Addiction + Why Morning Routines Matter

And I know going into it, I'm like, hey dude, this is a 50-50 chance where like you are either gonna get into a fight that's not gonna be fun or you're gonna be able to somehow just like talk through this. But dude, if you hold this back, there's a good chance that it's going to explode in three days and no one's going to want to be around you, specifically the family.