Michael Smoak
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Podcast Appearances
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If you can't talk about it, you aren't healed from it.
What's that mean to you?
That's super cool.
It's interesting when we try to dictate the way that we should feel.
I'm angry.
I shouldn't be angry.
But you are.
And...
I think this is a big part of what ACT therapy is trying to achieve, acceptance and commitment therapy, that the acceptance part is this is just happening and I have to allow it to sort of move through me.
And if you don't, that's when you begin a relationship, not just with the emotion, but with your relationship to the relationship of the emotion.
I shouldn't feel shame.
And then you feel bitterness about your shame.
And then you feel frustration at your bitterness about your shame.
And it's this infinite regress of saying things to yourself about something.
My partner did something and
It really made me feel agitated, made me feel maybe envious or insecure.
I shouldn't feel insecure.
You do.
You're allowed to feel it.