Michaela

Someone comments to OP, what are your goals?

What has he done to support them?

What sacrifices has he made, if any?

It seems a bit exploitative on his part, using you to achieve his life's personal endeavors and fulfillment.

If you want to stay with him, ask him for a solid plan as to who will pay for his school, how he intends to support his family, and how he will be an equal contributor to the partnership.

Yeah.

And OP goes, wow, this is definitely eye-opening.

I've been so focused on making things work that I don't think I've ever really stepped back and looked at the bigger picture like this.

Not us, us, us, including kids.

I'm just confused.

And I get, like, I don't know, some people wake up and quit their jobs and start sailing around the world.

understandable things in this world something about this specifically to me though that's exactly it is very like no this this isn't right i will literally give me another story and i will probably have a very different opinion yeah i'm like i'm literally speaking to just this story right yeah so like don't ever apply what i'm saying to anything else like no no i'm like literally responding to just this story this moment how i feel in the way that each person's situation comes across i think

It's also not what we're saying.

No, I know.

Take everything with a grain of salt.

And it's like, I think these conversations are and why even OP is here on Reddit is just like trying to gleam other opinions and just see things from a different side.

But again, it's like it's so context specific.

Someone does ask, are his parents aware of his plans?

If so, what are their thoughts?

And OP says, yes, they're aware and they support it, which has really put me in an even tougher spot.