Michaela

Like, I don't think that that's indicative of any, like, deeper feelings about anything.

I think it's just, like, that there is just, like, a line being, like, it's, like, things touching, like, foods touching that shouldn't be touching.

And also, like, I think it's a different situation if you all went to high school together and have all known each other and you dated this person at one point and then dated someone else at another point or whatever that might be.

Like, if you've all met at the same time.

But if you're only, like, knowing of someone through them having something with your friend, like...

There's no pre-existing relationship that you can look back to and be like, well, I also kind of had feelings at this time.

And even though you did, that didn't stop me.

You know, it can get more complicated in other situations, I think, when there's high school or college or that kind of overlap involved.

But in sort of adult relationships and situationships, whatever that might be, you really only know of that person through your friend.

There's no...

time that you would have been developing your own feelings before knowing that they slept together.

That's true.

This didn't swing me over to OP's side.

I'm still I think, OK, so the friend is overreacting if it were a one off.

But even OP herself is listing three instances where she's been the one doing this to her friend.

So, like, I understand why she's like, please just don't sleep with him.

It'll make me feel weird.

Like you've done it twice.

I'm kind of swayed.

But she's dibsing this guy that she's already slept with and had a relationship with.