Michelle Huntington

Because if we're getting, depending on where it is, and it's always, it's never when you're sitting at your desk, having had a cup of coffee and eight hours sleep and, you know, ready to face the world.

It's usually when you've got five things on the boil and someone else has come in and then you've got a call from the kids' school that they're in sickbay and so forth that you have to make a decision.

So it's that thing of what am I actually, what's the decision that I need to make rather than just grabbing at things and then looking at the facts.

So you mentioned about text messages, you know, I hate text messages because whatever mood or emotion, you know, you're in at the time is how you read the message.

So if you're coming at it and you've had a couple of wines and you're, you know, feeling all loved up and someone sends a message, you're like, oh yeah.

Whereas if you're angry or something's happened, you know, you've just lost a job or you, and then you read that same text message, it comes across very differently.

So it's the, you know, having to, one, work out what it is that you're actually deciding on.

Is it not the big thing or is it little, many little decisions along the way?

And then look at the actual facts, not what you're feeling emotionally, but the actual facts and without bias.

So, you know, I'm a woman.

So are they saying this because I am a woman or is it they're just saying this?

And then look at what options, you know, do I actually have options or am I coming at it again thinking it's only this that I have to decide on?

It's a yes or no, when really there are possible other ways of going about this and other things that I could ask, even though it hasn't been suggested to me yet.

And then look at the risks and the benefits.

But then the hardest thing, committing to a decision.

If you can't commit to a decision, you don't have enough facts.

Then you either seek the facts, but if no more information is coming in, go off that.

Sometimes, like you said, the gut feeling.

If you make like a head or tail, you flip a coin.

If you get that horrible feeling in your tummy, if you've got heads, then you know your decision was actually tails.