Michelle Kaplan

maybe maybe it's just you know you're inquiring and and the truth is sometimes you might just be inquiring it but it but the perception at least in american culture is if you're going to ask that question and you haven't asked you haven't given your rsvp you didn't say whether or not you're coming now it sounds like okay you're only coming if betsy and rita are coming but you don't want to just you know you don't want to just come for me right yeah totally

Yeah.

So really important to think about this here.

But yeah, I like that, Lindsay.

Like if we did an episode or a series on the 10 fastest ways to break a connection.

Yeah, that would be a funny episode.

So, but yeah, we're going to take a little bit of a break and then we're going to come back and keep talking about this.

Okay.

Yeah, so I was trying to think of ways to inquire without making it rude.

So I was trying to think, oh, what could you say?

But like I said, what I realized is if you are truly just guiding your decision based on who's coming, then I don't know that there is a polite way to do this.

Yeah.

What do you think, Lindsay?

So try to make your decision based on the event.

I mean, especially I mean, if like if you're going to an event where you might have the opportunity to speak English, you know, like you go to the event, you know, don't worry who's going to be there.

You might meet someone new.

You know, it's it's a very closed minded thing to just, you know, say, oh, I'm only going if these people are going online.

I understand the feeling of wanting to go there.

Maybe you have social anxiety, right?

And that's why.