Mike Carruthers

So start by throwing out some of these behaviors that you're talking about.

I just mentioned a few, but give people a flavor of what you mean.

And do you think when people do those things, they know it's a problem or that's just the way they do things?

And so where do these things come from?

These are patterns, you say, but patterns had to start somewhere one day.

How?

In order to address it, though, you have to realize it's a problem.

If you don't think it's a problem, then there's no problem.

So do people have a tendency to say, I know I do this and it's causing trouble?

Or do people say, I just this is this is me?

And then when you discover it, how do you start to address it, fix it, get it out of the way?

So I'm curious, like when you're in the grocery store, what is it you're sorry, what is it you're apologizing for?

Doesn't it seem like there's a lot of people like that?

And then of course, there's a lot of people who don't have any idea what you're talking about.

So why is it, if we can pick on you and use your example, when you're made aware of that, that you're really not sorry, why don't you just stop it?

I mean, what compels you to continue when you already know intellectually you're not sorry, you are just as entitled to take up space as anybody else, you have every right to be in that aisle at the grocery store.

Why don't you just stop it?

Well, stop it.

And so how important is it to figure out the why?

Why are you doing it?