Mike Carruthers

She's a professor of cognitive neuroscience at University College in London and at MIT, and she's author of a book called Look Again, The Power of Noticing What Was Always There.

And there's a link to that book in the show notes.

Thanks, Tali.

Thanks for being here.

My guess is you know someone who you really like talking to.

Because when you talk to them, they make you feel smarter.

They make you feel like you're being listened to.

They make you feel like what you say has some validity.

And the conversations with those people just flow.

So what is it about those people in those conversations?

Is it an innate skill they have or some trait that they possess?

Or can anyone be one of those people?

Is it all about what they say or how they say it or both?

Well, here to discuss all this is Charles Duhigg.

Charles has been a guest here before.

He's taken a look at this ability, this phenomenon, and written a book about it called Super Communicators, How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection.

So I can think of...

in my life one person who I would categorize as a superstar super communicator he has since passed away but he is one of those guys

that you just couldn't wait to talk to him.

You felt so good when you hung up the phone or walked away.