Miranda July

So what exactly had to change and what could stay the same changed. I feel like it's still changing. I mean, kind of as long as we're a family, which will hopefully be forever, you know, you've got three changing people in it whose needs are changing and who are trying to be honest. And I guess that was the big shift was like, oh, we're not going to pretend we're not changing anymore.

And that a lot of those changes have nothing to do with each other anymore. You know, or this thing that we've built. But, you know, as much as you worry about the kid, my biggest worry was that they wouldn't get to see me as I really was. And I say they because they're non-binary. There's just one kid there.

And that a lot of those changes have nothing to do with each other anymore. You know, or this thing that we've built. But, you know, as much as you worry about the kid, my biggest worry was that they wouldn't get to see me as I really was. And I say they because they're non-binary. There's just one kid there.

And that a lot of those changes have nothing to do with each other anymore. You know, or this thing that we've built. But, you know, as much as you worry about the kid, my biggest worry was that they wouldn't get to see me as I really was. And I say they because they're non-binary. There's just one kid there.

because I started to realize, oh, there's a whole lot of myself that happens outside the home with my best friend or in my studio alone being creative or just me alone in the world. Like, I feel like I'm starting to feel like this part that used to just be like,

because I started to realize, oh, there's a whole lot of myself that happens outside the home with my best friend or in my studio alone being creative or just me alone in the world. Like, I feel like I'm starting to feel like this part that used to just be like,

because I started to realize, oh, there's a whole lot of myself that happens outside the home with my best friend or in my studio alone being creative or just me alone in the world. Like, I feel like I'm starting to feel like this part that used to just be like,

me on a break or you know at work this may be the lion's share of me this might be kind of what I have to offer them as far as um one way to live one way to be but actually when I go home I'm being like a smaller version and not kind of like I um just less interesting to even to myself, like, cause I was biting my tongue a lot. Um, and no one was asking me to do this by the way.

me on a break or you know at work this may be the lion's share of me this might be kind of what I have to offer them as far as um one way to live one way to be but actually when I go home I'm being like a smaller version and not kind of like I um just less interesting to even to myself, like, cause I was biting my tongue a lot. Um, and no one was asking me to do this by the way.

me on a break or you know at work this may be the lion's share of me this might be kind of what I have to offer them as far as um one way to live one way to be but actually when I go home I'm being like a smaller version and not kind of like I um just less interesting to even to myself, like, cause I was biting my tongue a lot. Um, and no one was asking me to do this by the way.

Like it's, um, it's very personal. I know a lot of people who the freest they feel is, is in their home and you know, the world is terrifying, but, um, And so I began to feel like something I had to do for my child, like I need to change these circumstances so they can see who I really am.

Like it's, um, it's very personal. I know a lot of people who the freest they feel is, is in their home and you know, the world is terrifying, but, um, And so I began to feel like something I had to do for my child, like I need to change these circumstances so they can see who I really am.

Like it's, um, it's very personal. I know a lot of people who the freest they feel is, is in their home and you know, the world is terrifying, but, um, And so I began to feel like something I had to do for my child, like I need to change these circumstances so they can see who I really am.

It is interesting. I feel a little different since the book came out. I've now read so many emails and messages and comments on my sub stack about... And women at this point or women doing things differently are trying to figure this out that I no longer I'm like, is there a way to answer this question that isn't specific to me?

It is interesting. I feel a little different since the book came out. I've now read so many emails and messages and comments on my sub stack about... And women at this point or women doing things differently are trying to figure this out that I no longer I'm like, is there a way to answer this question that isn't specific to me?

It is interesting. I feel a little different since the book came out. I've now read so many emails and messages and comments on my sub stack about... And women at this point or women doing things differently are trying to figure this out that I no longer I'm like, is there a way to answer this question that isn't specific to me?

Because I actually don't feel like I think at the time I felt very unique and very like no one's doing what I'm doing and both worried by that and sort of proud. And now I'm like, no, no. And this is incredibly widespread, at least lots of thoughts about it. And then people trying to figure out how to do it. I mean, the thing of living together... It's what you're used to.

Because I actually don't feel like I think at the time I felt very unique and very like no one's doing what I'm doing and both worried by that and sort of proud. And now I'm like, no, no. And this is incredibly widespread, at least lots of thoughts about it. And then people trying to figure out how to do it. I mean, the thing of living together... It's what you're used to.

Because I actually don't feel like I think at the time I felt very unique and very like no one's doing what I'm doing and both worried by that and sort of proud. And now I'm like, no, no. And this is incredibly widespread, at least lots of thoughts about it. And then people trying to figure out how to do it. I mean, the thing of living together... It's what you're used to.

Obviously, that's not going to work if you're incredibly embattled, you know. But if you're not, then it is kind of an opportunity to see who the other person is a bit more. Like, wow, this person who is like my longtime friend. But I never could quite see what they were like when they're dating, you know?