Miranda July

Obviously, that's not going to work if you're incredibly embattled, you know. But if you're not, then it is kind of an opportunity to see who the other person is a bit more. Like, wow, this person who is like my longtime friend. But I never could quite see what they were like when they're dating, you know?

Obviously, that's not going to work if you're incredibly embattled, you know. But if you're not, then it is kind of an opportunity to see who the other person is a bit more. Like, wow, this person who is like my longtime friend. But I never could quite see what they were like when they're dating, you know?

Not that, like, you're necessarily getting any details or anything, but just, like, their energy, you know, because you were the person they were dating, and now you're not. And, like, yeah, there might be some sadness or strangeness about that, but... You're also like, look at you. You're a person. Like I never really gave you all of that. And meanwhile, you're also getting it too.

Not that, like, you're necessarily getting any details or anything, but just, like, their energy, you know, because you were the person they were dating, and now you're not. And, like, yeah, there might be some sadness or strangeness about that, but... You're also like, look at you. You're a person. Like I never really gave you all of that. And meanwhile, you're also getting it too.

Not that, like, you're necessarily getting any details or anything, but just, like, their energy, you know, because you were the person they were dating, and now you're not. And, like, yeah, there might be some sadness or strangeness about that, but... You're also like, look at you. You're a person. Like I never really gave you all of that. And meanwhile, you're also getting it too.

Like they're seeing you as a person more completely and nothing you do is threatening in the old way. You know, the way every new thing and change is like sort of threatening when you're in a couple sometimes. Yeah.

Like they're seeing you as a person more completely and nothing you do is threatening in the old way. You know, the way every new thing and change is like sort of threatening when you're in a couple sometimes. Yeah.

Like they're seeing you as a person more completely and nothing you do is threatening in the old way. You know, the way every new thing and change is like sort of threatening when you're in a couple sometimes. Yeah.

And if you know it's going to be a lifelong relationship, you know, partly because of the child, but also because, you know, life isn't that long and you've already invested so much time and energy with this person, like maybe that's sort of interesting to get to see and be seen, you know, in this different way.

And if you know it's going to be a lifelong relationship, you know, partly because of the child, but also because, you know, life isn't that long and you've already invested so much time and energy with this person, like maybe that's sort of interesting to get to see and be seen, you know, in this different way.

And if you know it's going to be a lifelong relationship, you know, partly because of the child, but also because, you know, life isn't that long and you've already invested so much time and energy with this person, like maybe that's sort of interesting to get to see and be seen, you know, in this different way.

Yes. I mean, that's like a whole other book that I didn't write. The child in the book is non-binary. And I remember... sort of wrestling with like, should I have the child be he, and it would be he for a while, then she, none of these things are feeling right. You know, it is a fiction. I'm making up all kinds of other things.

Yes. I mean, that's like a whole other book that I didn't write. The child in the book is non-binary. And I remember... sort of wrestling with like, should I have the child be he, and it would be he for a while, then she, none of these things are feeling right. You know, it is a fiction. I'm making up all kinds of other things.

Yes. I mean, that's like a whole other book that I didn't write. The child in the book is non-binary. And I remember... sort of wrestling with like, should I have the child be he, and it would be he for a while, then she, none of these things are feeling right. You know, it is a fiction. I'm making up all kinds of other things.

Surely I can just, the gender of this child doesn't have to map onto the gender of my child. But I went home one day and asked my child, I just described this situation. I said, what do you What do you think? Should I just have them be they them? I mean, I don't want, you know, it's not you, you know, so I don't want that to feel invasive to you.

Surely I can just, the gender of this child doesn't have to map onto the gender of my child. But I went home one day and asked my child, I just described this situation. I said, what do you What do you think? Should I just have them be they them? I mean, I don't want, you know, it's not you, you know, so I don't want that to feel invasive to you.

Surely I can just, the gender of this child doesn't have to map onto the gender of my child. But I went home one day and asked my child, I just described this situation. I said, what do you What do you think? Should I just have them be they them? I mean, I don't want, you know, it's not you, you know, so I don't want that to feel invasive to you.

And they said, I think everyone in the book should be they them. Which was such a kind of 2.0 answer, like sort of like just questioning the construction of gender in general. And I said like, okay, yeah, I'm not there yet. Point taken. And then I just went with they, them. And there's maybe one point in the book where it's kind of acknowledged that

And they said, I think everyone in the book should be they them. Which was such a kind of 2.0 answer, like sort of like just questioning the construction of gender in general. And I said like, okay, yeah, I'm not there yet. Point taken. And then I just went with they, them. And there's maybe one point in the book where it's kind of acknowledged that

And they said, I think everyone in the book should be they them. Which was such a kind of 2.0 answer, like sort of like just questioning the construction of gender in general. And I said like, okay, yeah, I'm not there yet. Point taken. And then I just went with they, them. And there's maybe one point in the book where it's kind of acknowledged that