Mireille Silcoff

I think it was when other girlfriends of mine divorced and had similar stories.

I think it was when other girlfriends of mine divorced and had similar stories.

They divorced and then they partnered up pretty quickly and started having sex and having conversations about sex. how their partner enjoys analingus or, you know, this stuff. And I'm like, how am I sitting around at 50 or whatever it was with a girlfriend who's the same age as me and we're sitting in our Gen X uniform of the mother jeans with the Levi's shirt tucked into the jeans.

They divorced and then they partnered up pretty quickly and started having sex and having conversations about sex. how their partner enjoys analingus or, you know, this stuff. And I'm like, how am I sitting around at 50 or whatever it was with a girlfriend who's the same age as me and we're sitting in our Gen X uniform of the mother jeans with the Levi's shirt tucked into the jeans.

I love that look. Thank you. And I wear the same thing every day. And the slightly graying hair. And we're sitting around talking about, you know. Licking someone's butt. Licking someone's butt. So, you know, it was just like it was really a moment.

I love that look. Thank you. And I wear the same thing every day. And the slightly graying hair. And we're sitting around talking about, you know. Licking someone's butt. Licking someone's butt. So, you know, it was just like it was really a moment.

Divorcing later is a huge piece of the puzzle. I divorced in my late 40s. And divorce is often a catalyst for sexual exploration among women. And what was interesting was that, well, even if you divorce really late, that still holds true. And so I think that's a big part of the story. So I noticed this among my girlfriends. And then very, very quickly, I began noticing it in the culture.

Divorcing later is a huge piece of the puzzle. I divorced in my late 40s. And divorce is often a catalyst for sexual exploration among women. And what was interesting was that, well, even if you divorce really late, that still holds true. And so I think that's a big part of the story. So I noticed this among my girlfriends. And then very, very quickly, I began noticing it in the culture.

And noticing it in the culture, I just saw the same things that everybody else has seen this year. I had a Netflix scrolling bar serve to me called Grown-Ass Women Living Their Best Lives, which was filled from top to bottom with these kind of... almost made-for-TV-ish type movies, like whatever, made-for-Netflix type movies about grown-ass women having affairs with younger men.

And noticing it in the culture, I just saw the same things that everybody else has seen this year. I had a Netflix scrolling bar serve to me called Grown-Ass Women Living Their Best Lives, which was filled from top to bottom with these kind of... almost made-for-TV-ish type movies, like whatever, made-for-Netflix type movies about grown-ass women having affairs with younger men.

That seemed to be like a big theme. So there was a lot of that. There was one with Laura Dern. There was one with Nicole Kidman. There was suddenly just a lot of material. And so taking that along with my own experience and what I was seeing with the women around me, it just seemed like, well, this is a moment, right?

That seemed to be like a big theme. So there was a lot of that. There was one with Laura Dern. There was one with Nicole Kidman. There was suddenly just a lot of material. And so taking that along with my own experience and what I was seeing with the women around me, it just seemed like, well, this is a moment, right?

I think that with women my age, I'm just going to coin something called owning the hot mess. LAUGHTER

I think that with women my age, I'm just going to coin something called owning the hot mess. LAUGHTER

I think that there is, with all of the responsibilities and all of the sleeplessness and difficulty, and kids are glued to the sides of our body now as they've never been before. Parenting is much more intensive for the women my age who are still parents to kids who haven't flown the coop yet. Yet, in all of that, there is also an amount of power, an amount of mastery.

I think that there is, with all of the responsibilities and all of the sleeplessness and difficulty, and kids are glued to the sides of our body now as they've never been before. Parenting is much more intensive for the women my age who are still parents to kids who haven't flown the coop yet. Yet, in all of that, there is also an amount of power, an amount of mastery.

Yes, it's a mess and we're running from thing to thing to thing to thing. Yet, part of this mess has to do with the fact that we've got this mess because we can handle it. I think that the 50-year-old woman mattering in society, that translates to the bedroom.

Yes, it's a mess and we're running from thing to thing to thing to thing. Yet, part of this mess has to do with the fact that we've got this mess because we can handle it. I think that the 50-year-old woman mattering in society, that translates to the bedroom.

Yeah. I mean, things have settled down for sure. Also, like I do want to say this, like menopause does have an effect. And I am in menopause now. And my libido has actually like become a bit less voracious. It's still there. It's still great. But like things can take a bit longer. I have to like work a bit more to get to places that were just very easy and natural to get to even five years ago.

Yeah. I mean, things have settled down for sure. Also, like I do want to say this, like menopause does have an effect. And I am in menopause now. And my libido has actually like become a bit less voracious. It's still there. It's still great. But like things can take a bit longer. I have to like work a bit more to get to places that were just very easy and natural to get to even five years ago.