Mita Mallick

Second, in my house, I have children, so we like to say, poo-poo trickles down.

Ryan, you work for me, first time leader.

I'm a bad boss.

You don't know any better, so you start emulating my behaviors, because that's the only model of leadership you have access to in that moment.

And then the third moment I see bad boss behaviors really come out is when you have a personal earthquake happen.

You lose someone you love.

You have a miscarriage, divorce, breakup.

You're sick.

Someone's sick.

I can go on and on.

But it is such a traumatic earthquake moment.

We try to compartmentalize these things.

I lost my dad really suddenly in 2017.

I talk about my bad boss moment and the devil emails at midnight.

You think you can put grief in the kitchen drawer, put it away, and just show up to work and try to operate as normal.

And it doesn't work that way because grief is

relentless, it'll come find you least when you expect it.

And that's when your bad boss behaviors can show up as well.

I love what you said.

I don't love that it's true, but it's this constant state of stress that we're living in constant state of trust and stress and anxiety.