Mita Mallick

This is my permission to treat you badly because I'm telling you about all this personal stuff going on and trauma dumping.

One of the ways you could deal with that situation, and listen, it's context and situation matters, particularly when there's power dynamics.

If your boss is obviously more senior to you, how do you handle this?

I appreciate Ryan.

I'm going to make

you the bad guy.

I appreciate, Ryan, that you're sharing all the things with me.

I understand it's a hard time with you.

I'm actually going to encourage you to go and talk to Modern Health, which is a benefit provider that we use.

And there's opportunity to get coaching and counseling because I'm not equipped.

I'm not an expert in this.

I don't know how else to help you.

just to offer other things and other services.

The other thing is, it's really hard.

You don't want to get into this counselor mode with your boss.

And so to say, I'm sorry that's happening, pause.

I'd love to now talk about this project, which is an awkward kind of transition.

But I found myself, Ryan, I also can enable this behavior.

If I'm sitting there allowing the person to go on and on and on and on in the workplace and I'm not actually stopping it, then I'm enabling the behavior.

And that's where context and situation matters because you can be.