Mitchell Osmond

The drivers of our masculinity are things like accomplishments, excellence, having a sense of purpose, being on mission, building things.

That's why when you look at any Super Bowl party, you see all the men gathered around the TV, watching the athletes, watching the game.

Because we're drawn to athletes like a moth to a flame because they're the best in the world at what they do.

They've got a clear mission.

They're doing something great.

They're excellent.

Right.

And we see the women usually standing around the island or the snacks connecting with one another.

nurturing relationships, because that's how they're wired is by intuition, by emotion, by nurturing one another.

And so for men, this is actually how we're wired.

And and so if we're not careful, though, we can go too far.

And the great irony for a lot of the men that I work with is they spend their life trying to give some some life to their family.

but they end up losing the family they were trying so hard to provide for because they got so laser focused.

And that's a great thing, but when it's taken too far, it's a weakness, right?

And so the biggest thing that I would maybe advise your listeners to work through is to create your own definition of success, right?

Because what happens is, and I read a book a couple of years ago called The Gap and the Gain by Dr. Benjamin Hardy, phenomenal book.

But he talks a lot about how we fall into this trap of always thinking in the future and like defining ourselves by some undefined measure of success, something that is hypothetical.

And we stretch and we strive and we don't even know what we're shooting for.

And we end up anxious and stressed out versus and that's the gap mindset versus the gain of looking back.

And celebrating where we've come from.