Molly Graham

It's going to be part of your story.

The question is how you move through it.

And you are better prepared for the other side of it if you've learned to live with discomfort and challenge yourself and

stretch yourself to do things that you're unsure about, you know, so that risk taking muscle is developed in small moves and is so valuable for moments of uncertainty.

So first of all, I think taking time off between jobs, if you can afford it, and if you can do it without significant financial anxiety, is one of the most powerful things you can do.

Because jobs are like relationships.

And we all have that framework of the rebound framework.

relationship right where you like you're like dating the person and it's toxic or whatever it's just not it and you break up with them and you jump right into another thing that really that next thing isn't a healthy relationship it's just the opposite of whatever you just had you're running away from something versus running towards something and sometimes i've seen a lot of people take the rebound job right where it's like i just had to get out of there

And first of all, I want to say financially, if you're in a toxic or not great job and someone offers you an exit and financially that's the best decision for you, rebound jobs could be great for that.

And it's unlikely that that's going to be like the best job for you right now.

So space in between jobs kind of lets us shed whatever baggage and trauma we're bringing from that last relationship so that we can kind of like take the space to be like,

what's right for me next.

But I do think you can only take healthy space between jobs if you are not constantly terrified about money.

And so a lot of the work that I do with people when they're thinking of leaving and sort of asking what's the best way to leave is really go through the math with them of like, what would have to be true for you to take, you know, a month or two months or three months off between jobs or a

how much savings do you have to have?

Really, it comes down to like, what is the dollar amount that you need per month to make you feel safe?

And that word is very vague for a reason, because what makes you feel safe, like what makes Elise feel safe is not what makes Molly feel safe, is not what makes someone else feel safe.

We all have different budgets, different lives, but also it comes back to the programming, like what our parents taught us is safe.

So it can be about savings.

It can also be about like,