Monica Padman

Why would romantic love be different than the sexual love?

Who would you be romantically in love with that you didn't want to have sex with?

You would just be in love with them as a friend.

Yeah.

Yes, but you had a sexual relationship that has slowed down as opposed to you were never intending to have a sexual relationship and sex was never going to be a part of this.

Yeah, I think I'm either I want a romantic love with a woman or I want a friendship love with them.

There's no third bucket for me.

And considering love, love, sure, there's people I would love to have sex with that I would not want to hang out with, which is kind of gendered, generally speaking.

And have no sex.

And not justify an annulment if they ask for it.

Like a romantic love is wanting to kiss the person's lips.

Yeah, that's the same thing as sexual attraction.

But.

Those aren't different things to me.

Like there's no one I want to kiss really bad, but then don't want to have sex with.

If I want to kiss them and I love them.

No, but I would like to have sex with Kristen.

And if I didn't want to have sex with her, that would be an issue.

Yeah, I just I think comparing something 20 years out and week one, no one's getting a marriage annulled after 20 years.

I'm talking you marry someone is as revealed to you.