Morgana O'Reilly

It's wonderful.

And then...

authenticity that word comes up my love when you were talking about somebody like robin and as you maybe get older i often hear women saying i just give less less shits now maybe that's because you're able to live more in your authentic self maybe it also refers to the fact that you're um

In your 20s and 30s as a woman, you're sexualized in a different way.

You are observed.

You're much more of an observed sex, gender.

And that's where you feel that feeling of currency.

Or your sense of value is tied to that, whether that's biology or the stories that we've been told.

Or both.

And so I feel like there's the bridge from like 35 to, I feel like I'm still on it, of entering the middle years.

Midlife.

yeah is like long and varied and shifting from a more observed woman to a more embodied woman maybe and there are really scary moments in that because I for whatever reason think deep in lizard brain a lot that my value in the world is tethered tightly to how I look and

And so as the way I look changes and goes against a social opinion about youth.

I said to my husband the other day, I was like, it's like, it feels like, the feeling is like I'm losing money.

It's like somebody's taking money out of my bank account and there's nothing I can do about my value is going down, perceived value going down.

But then I guess what takes its place is your true character.

And hopefully that you're able to rebuild.

And that's why I think like women in their middle years, especially like women in their like 60s are so fucking cool, right?

because they have done it they've built themselves back up they've been stripped back and built back up and maybe and again this is generalization but men exist like they my husband just turned 50 and he's more handsome than ever like that has perceived men's perceived

Beauty continues into an older space because their perceived value is tied to their authority, to their intelligence and things like that, which is interesting that that's how it works.