Nadia

focus, fight, flight, that kind of system is primed to attack, you know, and when we look up and we look at the horizon and we take in everything that's going on around us, I mean, the story, I think one of the early stories in the book was just sitting on the bus and I'm on my phone.

There's a baby just in front of me and it happens all the time on a plane, on a train, and the baby's really trying to interact and

It brings me so much joy to interact with a baby or a dog.

Anywhere.

Like, oh, hello, you're so cute.

And walk on and the owner's like, oh my God, I hope she doesn't stop and talk to me as well.

You know, I'm like, I don't want you, I just want the dog.

And it's one of those things where it's happening all the time around us.

And if we start to pay attention and really get that feeling in our body, we want more of it.

It feels good.

A clinician, Deb Dana, coined the word glimmers.

And she works with a lot of trauma survivors.

And saying things like safety or having too big of a feeling was too much for them.

So she wanted to make it so small that it was achievable for everybody.

Not too frightening.

One of her words, actually, that she uses is...

okayness yeah and i love that because it's like forget a safety connected just are you okay right now you've got your feet on the ground are you warm yes check okay are you hungry no okay that's good do i need to pee no no okay right now i'm okay

I think most of us are.

And then we react.

It's like this...