Nadia

I'm safe.

I'm safe.

The more you do that, the more you start creating a different pattern.

And I remember mum saying at a dinner table, she sat at the dinner table, you know, and the kids...

Her kids are very outspoken.

They're heard at the dinner table.

Everyone's debating and having conversations.

We were seen and not heard.

We were not allowed to talk.

I mean, my dad always said I had verbal diarrhea if I talked at the dinner table.

But our mum was at dinner and

Oh, I've got a friend and she's got two little boys and they're so good.

They don't say a word and they sit at dinner like that was a really good thing.

Freeze.

You know, and Katia was like, yeah, I don't want kids like that.

I want my kids to speak.

And then weirdly, I ended up in a partnership with also two boys that kick the footballer.

I'll spend this fucking mess everywhere.

And I'm like phoning her having my nervous system responses.

But as the, you know, step parent, new partner, you feel you have even less right to react to that.