Natalie Dawson

She just had this aura about her.

And so I watched my mom growing up as a role model and somebody who still to me today is a role model.

And she really emphasized that.

how important it is to ask great questions and to be engaged with other people.

And what I lost in that process is, well, if I'm always asking other people and trying to get other people to like me, and it's always that flow, like, what do I actually think about myself?

Because I'm so focused on over-accommodating others.

And so if you're trying to flip this

for yourself, you're trying to go from, I over-index on being liked and not so over-index on being respectable and liking what I think about myself.

You really have to go out to your three-year version of yourself and your five-year version of yourself because no one is going to get clear on that for you besides you.

And once you put that stake in the ground saying this is what I want to be known for, this is who I want to become, this is who I imagine myself being, this isn't a manifestation practice.

It's I'm going to decide who that person is and then I'm going to like myself at 20, at 30, at 70 because I'm acting in accordance with the way that I view myself in the future and I'm going to become the person that I want to be.

Of course they do.

I work with hundreds of team members every single day who have their own points of view and their own perspectives on what they want the work to look like, what they want our culture to look like.

And...

I think I've had to wrestle with this so much because I want to create an environment where people can be successful.

My definition of leadership is making other people's success easy.

So if I'm going to be a leader, I'm going to make other people's success easy.

How would I go about doing that?

What

compared to their alternative, which is going down the street and trusting that some other leader is going to make them more successful.