Nathan

you know, that gives me anxiety because if I, you know, not interested at that time, then you're upset about it and that sort of thing.

And so she basically said, like, I just, it makes me anxious when you initiate.

I said, okay, I'm willing to, to step back from that, but you haven't initiated in a really long time.

So if I step away from that, then I'm worried that nothing's ever going to happen.

And so, um,

She said, well, I can take on that, you know, and be willing to do that.

And so that became, we kind of switched roles in that, honestly.

And I was trying to respect what, you know, she wanted to do there.

And that's had some real positive things that have come from that over the last few months.

But then there were some other things that I communicated that I had interest in.

An example would be, like, I was interested in her wearing lingerie.

She said, no, I'm not willing to do that.

And so there were certain things that she was, like, drew a very clear line on.

And so it's been a combination, and I think we've had some really positive direction with the changes that we've made.

So I'm really...

more focused on like, I'm not trying to change her, um, or, or have her do things that she's not comfortable doing.

I'm trying to figure out what to do with my desire when I, when it's not going to happen.

Um, if that makes sense.

Go ahead.

Yeah.