Nedra Glover Tawwab

And so you have to be able to communicate that in a very simple way and let him know that this behavior is not okay. When you're upset with me, I would prefer it if you had a conversation around what's bothering you. And let's think about some compassion here and a little bit of empathy. Your husband is also... in a space where the kids are outside of the house.

And so you have to be able to communicate that in a very simple way and let him know that this behavior is not okay. When you're upset with me, I would prefer it if you had a conversation around what's bothering you. And let's think about some compassion here and a little bit of empathy. Your husband is also... in a space where the kids are outside of the house.

And so you have to be able to communicate that in a very simple way and let him know that this behavior is not okay. When you're upset with me, I would prefer it if you had a conversation around what's bothering you. And let's think about some compassion here and a little bit of empathy. Your husband is also... in a space where the kids are outside of the house.

I don't know the level of involvement there, but that can be a difficult transition sometimes. And so perhaps he is looking forward to spending time with you. I'm sensing a bit of disappointment. I missed you, you know, is what I'm hearing. And I feel hurt that you didn't want to be with me in that time.

I don't know the level of involvement there, but that can be a difficult transition sometimes. And so perhaps he is looking forward to spending time with you. I'm sensing a bit of disappointment. I missed you, you know, is what I'm hearing. And I feel hurt that you didn't want to be with me in that time.

I don't know the level of involvement there, but that can be a difficult transition sometimes. And so perhaps he is looking forward to spending time with you. I'm sensing a bit of disappointment. I missed you, you know, is what I'm hearing. And I feel hurt that you didn't want to be with me in that time.

So how do you all have a conversation about what you're really feeling and get all of this tough guy stuff out of there? Like all of this tough stuff that we do instead of really saying like that hurt me. I'm afraid, I'm disappointing. There's a lot of changes happening and you are the only consistent thing because that's what I'm hearing from that scenario.

So how do you all have a conversation about what you're really feeling and get all of this tough guy stuff out of there? Like all of this tough stuff that we do instead of really saying like that hurt me. I'm afraid, I'm disappointing. There's a lot of changes happening and you are the only consistent thing because that's what I'm hearing from that scenario.

So how do you all have a conversation about what you're really feeling and get all of this tough guy stuff out of there? Like all of this tough stuff that we do instead of really saying like that hurt me. I'm afraid, I'm disappointing. There's a lot of changes happening and you are the only consistent thing because that's what I'm hearing from that scenario.

I think of a few starter phrases like I need, or I want, or I expect, or no. And just simple sentences. I think sometimes we really complicate it because not only are we stating the boundary, we're trying to get the other person to agree with it.

I think of a few starter phrases like I need, or I want, or I expect, or no. And just simple sentences. I think sometimes we really complicate it because not only are we stating the boundary, we're trying to get the other person to agree with it.

I think of a few starter phrases like I need, or I want, or I expect, or no. And just simple sentences. I think sometimes we really complicate it because not only are we stating the boundary, we're trying to get the other person to agree with it.

And so we'll say, you know, a whole bunch of stuff. I need you to sit with me because the other day I sat with you and this is really important to me because every time I sit down, I think about you. And it's like, what are you saying? So if we can keep it simple and if there's a conversation to be had, perhaps going to that conversation, but lots of boundaries are just statements.

And so we'll say, you know, a whole bunch of stuff. I need you to sit with me because the other day I sat with you and this is really important to me because every time I sit down, I think about you. And it's like, what are you saying? So if we can keep it simple and if there's a conversation to be had, perhaps going to that conversation, but lots of boundaries are just statements.

And so we'll say, you know, a whole bunch of stuff. I need you to sit with me because the other day I sat with you and this is really important to me because every time I sit down, I think about you. And it's like, what are you saying? So if we can keep it simple and if there's a conversation to be had, perhaps going to that conversation, but lots of boundaries are just statements.

You know, when I think of, I need you to watch the kids while I'm cooking dinner, that's just a statement. There's no conversation to be had. That's a sentence. When you're upset with me, I'd like you to talk about that instead of treating me as if you're upset. That's a sentence, right? So I think sometimes we're trying to think of these talking points. It is not necessarily required.

You know, when I think of, I need you to watch the kids while I'm cooking dinner, that's just a statement. There's no conversation to be had. That's a sentence. When you're upset with me, I'd like you to talk about that instead of treating me as if you're upset. That's a sentence, right? So I think sometimes we're trying to think of these talking points. It is not necessarily required.

You know, when I think of, I need you to watch the kids while I'm cooking dinner, that's just a statement. There's no conversation to be had. That's a sentence. When you're upset with me, I'd like you to talk about that instead of treating me as if you're upset. That's a sentence, right? So I think sometimes we're trying to think of these talking points. It is not necessarily required.

You talked about arguing on the beach for 30 minutes. And one of the things that I try to teach couples is argue, but don't do it for a long period of time. Because if you're doing it for 30 minutes, an hour, you're just repeating yourself. That's right. You're not really saying anything new. Nothing is being discovered. I know that. That's for damn sure. Awakening after four hours.

You talked about arguing on the beach for 30 minutes. And one of the things that I try to teach couples is argue, but don't do it for a long period of time. Because if you're doing it for 30 minutes, an hour, you're just repeating yourself. That's right. You're not really saying anything new. Nothing is being discovered. I know that. That's for damn sure. Awakening after four hours.