Nedra Glover Tawwab

You talked about arguing on the beach for 30 minutes. And one of the things that I try to teach couples is argue, but don't do it for a long period of time. Because if you're doing it for 30 minutes, an hour, you're just repeating yourself. That's right. You're not really saying anything new. Nothing is being discovered. I know that. That's for damn sure. Awakening after four hours.

Thank God we got to that 43rd minute where we really got to the crux of it. Yeah. It's really like my point, my point, my point, my point again, my point, point, point. You know, you're just going and it's like, are you going to say something different? Do you have a new example? Yes. It's really not new stuff. You're really just trying to get this person like agree with me. This was good.

Thank God we got to that 43rd minute where we really got to the crux of it. Yeah. It's really like my point, my point, my point, my point again, my point, point, point. You know, you're just going and it's like, are you going to say something different? Do you have a new example? Yes. It's really not new stuff. You're really just trying to get this person like agree with me. This was good.

Thank God we got to that 43rd minute where we really got to the crux of it. Yeah. It's really like my point, my point, my point, my point again, my point, point, point. You know, you're just going and it's like, are you going to say something different? Do you have a new example? Yes. It's really not new stuff. You're really just trying to get this person like agree with me. This was good.

I said it differently. And it's like... You're saying the same thing. This really could have been five minutes. It's so good. So true. What are we spending time on here?

I said it differently. And it's like... You're saying the same thing. This really could have been five minutes. It's so good. So true. What are we spending time on here?

I said it differently. And it's like... You're saying the same thing. This really could have been five minutes. It's so good. So true. What are we spending time on here?

Yes. It's so funny because people say, I am needy. I'm like, me too. What do you need? Yeah. We're all needy. We all need stuff. Some of us are more open to expressing those needs. And that's how you get that label of being needy. But I have a lot of needs. Sometimes, you know, we'll diminish our needs because we don't want to present as needy. But I think 100% of humans are needy.

Yes. It's so funny because people say, I am needy. I'm like, me too. What do you need? Yeah. We're all needy. We all need stuff. Some of us are more open to expressing those needs. And that's how you get that label of being needy. But I have a lot of needs. Sometimes, you know, we'll diminish our needs because we don't want to present as needy. But I think 100% of humans are needy.

Yes. It's so funny because people say, I am needy. I'm like, me too. What do you need? Yeah. We're all needy. We all need stuff. Some of us are more open to expressing those needs. And that's how you get that label of being needy. But I have a lot of needs. Sometimes, you know, we'll diminish our needs because we don't want to present as needy. But I think 100% of humans are needy.

We have all sorts of preferences. Now, whether we communicate those or not... But we have preferences in there and it's just a part of being human to have these needs. So how do we get better at expressing them? I remember when I stopped eating pork and I would be so afraid to tell people I didn't, I'm in the South, right? So I would be so, they put pork in everything. Oh my gosh, I just-

We have all sorts of preferences. Now, whether we communicate those or not... But we have preferences in there and it's just a part of being human to have these needs. So how do we get better at expressing them? I remember when I stopped eating pork and I would be so afraid to tell people I didn't, I'm in the South, right? So I would be so, they put pork in everything. Oh my gosh, I just-

We have all sorts of preferences. Now, whether we communicate those or not... But we have preferences in there and it's just a part of being human to have these needs. So how do we get better at expressing them? I remember when I stopped eating pork and I would be so afraid to tell people I didn't, I'm in the South, right? So I would be so, they put pork in everything. Oh my gosh, I just-

every single thing i'm from detroit so when i moved here i was like oh wow i really have to ask is there pork in that cornbread is it pork in that lemonade you know everything is like pork infused bacon bacon yeah um So how do you start to express to people, like, is there an option where I don't get pork in this meal? Can this be prepared that way? So many times I used to just pick it off.

every single thing i'm from detroit so when i moved here i was like oh wow i really have to ask is there pork in that cornbread is it pork in that lemonade you know everything is like pork infused bacon bacon yeah um So how do you start to express to people, like, is there an option where I don't get pork in this meal? Can this be prepared that way? So many times I used to just pick it off.

every single thing i'm from detroit so when i moved here i was like oh wow i really have to ask is there pork in that cornbread is it pork in that lemonade you know everything is like pork infused bacon bacon yeah um So how do you start to express to people, like, is there an option where I don't get pork in this meal? Can this be prepared that way? So many times I used to just pick it off.

Like, I don't want to inconvenience them. I'll just eat around it. But once people start to say, yeah, yeah, they'll just take it off. It's like, oh, wait, you'll listen to me?

Like, I don't want to inconvenience them. I'll just eat around it. But once people start to say, yeah, yeah, they'll just take it off. It's like, oh, wait, you'll listen to me?

Like, I don't want to inconvenience them. I'll just eat around it. But once people start to say, yeah, yeah, they'll just take it off. It's like, oh, wait, you'll listen to me?

Yeah.