Nick Bare

I think you have to detach yourself from the issue you're experiencing. Go big picture. So to kind of paint a picture of a story that kind of wraps that all up, I remember I was in Fort Benning, Georgia for training. This was 2014, probably. It was before I got to my unit in Fort Hood.

I think you have to detach yourself from the issue you're experiencing. Go big picture. So to kind of paint a picture of a story that kind of wraps that all up, I remember I was in Fort Benning, Georgia for training. This was 2014, probably. It was before I got to my unit in Fort Hood.

I was a brand new second lieutenant, and we were being mentored by the 75th Ranger Regiment for a few days in training. And these were all captains in the captain's career course. And I was talking to this one officer and I said, you know, sir, when I get to my unit, what's going to set me up for success? How do I become the best officer possible?

I was a brand new second lieutenant, and we were being mentored by the 75th Ranger Regiment for a few days in training. And these were all captains in the captain's career course. And I was talking to this one officer and I said, you know, sir, when I get to my unit, what's going to set me up for success? How do I become the best officer possible?

And he pointed across the room to this other officer. He said, you see that guy over there? When it's a fan, when chaos strikes, that guy is as cool as the other side of the pillow. Really? Because he detaches himself. He's not reactive. He's proactive. He has a plan, but he pulls back from 10,000 feet in the air, looks at all the moving pieces and then makes a plan.

And he pointed across the room to this other officer. He said, you see that guy over there? When it's a fan, when chaos strikes, that guy is as cool as the other side of the pillow. Really? Because he detaches himself. He's not reactive. He's proactive. He has a plan, but he pulls back from 10,000 feet in the air, looks at all the moving pieces and then makes a plan.

So I think what happens with a lot of people and myself included, it used to happen a lot is something goes wrong. Your plan isn't working. Well, now you're in fight or flight. You're reactive. You're trying to just put things back in place. it's often better to just take a step back, take a deep breath, look at what's going on, and how do I deliberately make a plan to adjust and execute?

So I think what happens with a lot of people and myself included, it used to happen a lot is something goes wrong. Your plan isn't working. Well, now you're in fight or flight. You're reactive. You're trying to just put things back in place. it's often better to just take a step back, take a deep breath, look at what's going on, and how do I deliberately make a plan to adjust and execute?

What's the things you guys did in the Army to train for that? I think it was just through mentorship. You always throughout training have... a non-commissioned officer who has years of experience or an officer who has years of experience. But when I got to my platoon in 2014 in Texas, I was an infantry platoon leader. I was the platoon leader of these 40 soldiers, non-commissioned officers.

What's the things you guys did in the Army to train for that? I think it was just through mentorship. You always throughout training have... a non-commissioned officer who has years of experience or an officer who has years of experience. But when I got to my platoon in 2014 in Texas, I was an infantry platoon leader. I was the platoon leader of these 40 soldiers, non-commissioned officers.

I had the least amount of experience out of all of them. You were the leader. Exactly. New officer. My platoon sergeant had 18 years of experience in the Army with multiple combat deployments. But he was reporting to you. Technically. Wow. My squad leaders, my team leaders, they had multiple deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan. You know, a lot of experience.

I had the least amount of experience out of all of them. You were the leader. Exactly. New officer. My platoon sergeant had 18 years of experience in the Army with multiple combat deployments. But he was reporting to you. Technically. Wow. My squad leaders, my team leaders, they had multiple deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan. You know, a lot of experience.

And then I had, you know, junior enlisted soldiers in the platoon, but... For me, I was being mentored by my platoon sergeant, my squad leaders, my team leaders. So the biggest piece of advice I got when I first arrived at that platoon was don't make any changes. This is not your platoon. Allow them to let you in. Just come in and observe.

And then I had, you know, junior enlisted soldiers in the platoon, but... For me, I was being mentored by my platoon sergeant, my squad leaders, my team leaders. So the biggest piece of advice I got when I first arrived at that platoon was don't make any changes. This is not your platoon. Allow them to let you in. Just come in and observe.

And when they start asking for some advice and your opinion, that's them letting you in. And I learned so much through and from these non-commissioned officers and soldiers during my four years. A lot of it was just having awareness, you know, reading the room. Like, do these people trust me? Do they want me to lead them? Will they work alongside of me?

And when they start asking for some advice and your opinion, that's them letting you in. And I learned so much through and from these non-commissioned officers and soldiers during my four years. A lot of it was just having awareness, you know, reading the room. Like, do these people trust me? Do they want me to lead them? Will they work alongside of me?

Having that awareness and then repetition, consistent repetition will help you get better.

Having that awareness and then repetition, consistent repetition will help you get better.

My wife has a morning routine. It was definitely different. It wasn't 5 a.m. wake up? It was never 5 a.m. wake up. But for her, it was always, we are routine people. It was wake up. She would go through her green supplement and then water and then coffee and then go work out and train. And both of us, we need to move our bodies to be sane. Having the baby has changed life pretty significantly.

My wife has a morning routine. It was definitely different. It wasn't 5 a.m. wake up? It was never 5 a.m. wake up. But for her, it was always, we are routine people. It was wake up. She would go through her green supplement and then water and then coffee and then go work out and train. And both of us, we need to move our bodies to be sane. Having the baby has changed life pretty significantly.