Nick Freitas

What it was is what we were shooting for is respected leadership.

So it's that thing where it's like, I'm not your friend.

I love you and I like you, but I'm an authority figure.

One day I want to be friends with you.

And that's when you become an adult and you move out and you establish yourself.

And at that point, I'm still your parent, but I'm not parenting you anymore.

I move more into kind of a mentorship phase of life.

And so the way that we did it with our kids was, well, no, if I have to bring correction, I'm going to bring correction because I'm going to direct your steps.

But then as they get a little bit older, you get them more challenges to face.

And I think the other thing that they believed is that we really wanted the best for them.

We wanted to help them accomplish their goals and the mission that God had for them.

And so there was times where they needed to be aware of danger.

Um, but everything was rooted on how do we prepare?

How do we set you up for success in life?

That's a very different conversation approach.

Um, yeah, so that's, that's what we, that's what we show for.

And there's times we, we didn't do it well.

Right.

But, but I think they knew that's what we wanted for them.

And so they trusted us.