Nick Freitas

Did you ever use timeouts for them?

Um, yeah, there, I mean, there was go to your room or something like that, but we usually tried to keep it in conjunction with like an activity.

Like, I don't want you to just go to your room, like go clean your room or go do this, or you don't want to pay attention.

Well, I'm gonna give you something productive to do to take your attention.

Um, and I, and I also don't want to pretend like there wasn't, um,

For instance, when my daughter was 13, she was kind of, her and my wife were having an argument.

Again, it's part of that figuring out names and roles.

And she made this kind of like smart-alecky face toward my wife and she turned the corner and she didn't realize that I saw it.

And she looked at me and I looked at her and I said, don't you ever talk to my wife that way again.

So she felt that, oh, dad's mad.

She felt that dad's angry.

Why?

Because you disrespected his wife.

Not your mother, my wife.

Now, in that moment, I'm not doing that because I want to be a big, tough guy that's making my daughter feel small.

What I want to demonstrate to her is that there is an order of things.

And part of that order is I protect my wife.

I protect my wife from insult.

I protect my wife from danger.

And if you insult my wife, I'm going to protect her from you.