Nick Viall

While Taylor, she could also qualify for Darvo, deny attack, and reversing victim and offender.

But she's more reactive.

I think her Darvo response is more of like a trauma response.

It comes from feeling flooded.

It's not calculated like Dakota's is.

She's like really dysregulated.

She can't hold complexity.

She's like, this is your fault.

This is all your fault, right?

And she's totally hijacked in the moment.

Yeah, yeah.

He is able to regulate his nervous system better than she can.

And he uses that.

And we can even talk a little bit about how that's his power in a certain way.

But reactive abuse, again, this is where it gets really murky.

Reactive abuse is when someone has like...

been chronically provoked, gaslit or lied to, manipulated over a sustained period of time.

And he does lie and gaslight her and manipulate her until she eventually explodes.

But the problem is that...

In reactive abuse, typically, if you want to look at it cleanly, that's kind of like the only pattern that goes on.