Nicole Kalil

When I get this promotion, I'll feel confident.

When I make this level of income, then I'll feel confident.

When my children are perfectly behaved, then I'll feel confident.

When the scale says a certain number, then I'll feel confident.

And the reality is that's just not how confidence works.

And so the con is that it's something outside of us.

This idea that so much of us have bought into is that confidence is related to how we look and how we feel.

The root of the word confidence is trust.

So confidence is when we trust ourselves.

Come on this journey with me.

Heather, thank you so much for having me.

This is like a surreal moment because I followed you for years.

And then of course, we have a shared passion around confidence.

So I read your book many years ago.

And so when we were connected earlier this year, I felt like I was, you know, meeting a celebrity and Total had a fangirl moment.

So I could not be any more honored to be here today.

Isn't it funny?

That is so funny.

Well, it could be confidence.

It could be a touch of just, you know, tenacity to get what I want.