Nicole LePera

The don't show anger, the don't yell or to have a more passive aggressive communication or interpersonal where you're gossiping and criticizing and shaming other people, but really

you're angry.

And we'll all be angry in a couple different moments when our boundaries are violated.

Why?

Because anger inspires the action to assert ourself, to fight or flee the thing that's causing our boundary violation.

It also comes from an accumulation of unmet needs.

So the reality is a lot of us adults

Myself included, I struggle to connect with my anger still because it feels too much like anxiety.

It feels too overwhelming.

I had two parents, one of which my dad, who was screaming and yelling when he was angry over the misplacement of where he put the thing and it's not where it used to be.

And so now he's angry all the time in those moments, inappropriately, so one might say, and a shut down mother.

So I am still learning how to connect with the sensory experience of emotion.

So it goes back to how do we do it?

We connect with our body.

We explore not before we even give the label.

We can get out of feelings wheel and eventually over time kind of point to the feeling that we're having.

But before we can do that, can we just connect with the emotions, the sensations?

Right.

Can we learn and be with that amplified energy of anger or maybe the depletion and heaviness of sadness?

Right.