Nicole McNichols

You are.

You're rewiring your brain's neural circuitry to crave more sex.

And it's the same thing with movement.

If you're used to getting a lot of movement, working out, getting steps, whatever your movement looks like, and suddenly you're on bed rest for a few days, you're going to feel antsy compared to the person who's kind of the couch potato and doesn't really feel like movement is a regular part of what their body needs.

So it's the same thing.

You just kind of get used to what your body wants.

feels good doing, what it's used to, we are all complete suckers for familiarity, right?

We want to fall into familiar habits.

So sometimes again, it's not that you have to force yourself to have sex the way you need to force yourself to eat healthy or force yourself to go to the gym, but to a certain extent, it is a skill set, it is a habit that when you develop, it does build desire simply by being part of your regular schedule.

Yes.

That's amazing.

Thank you.

You know, it's really about understanding that desires change and bodies change.

And it's just sort of a constant effort to communicate and try new things.

And, you know, I think part of it is we hear about this idea of novelty all the time, right?

And how important novelty is.

And people...

can kind of feel like that's an unattainable goal because when we think of novelty, we think like, oh my God, does that mean I need to go to a sex store and get handcuffs or get a whip or get a whole dominatrix get up?

And for some people, that might be amazing.

I talk all about how you can do that if you want to in my book.