Nicole McNichols

It's about feeling like you are experiencing sex in a state of ultimate presence and mindfulness.

and that you are responding to what's actually feeling good in your body and the cues emanating from your partner, as opposed to just what you think you're supposed to know.

So at the foundation, I talk about this in my McNichols hierarchy of sexual needs.

And we do start with a foundation of needing to understand your anatomy and the science of erotic touch and the science of

the types of pleasure, the types of, you know, as concrete as which direction and figures, which we have data on, right?

People don't even understand how much research exists on different techniques people can use that actually bring pleasure, right?

That are more likely to lead to orgasm

particularly for women who we know are less likely to have orgasms in the context of straight heterosexual sex than men.

So it is critical to understand your body and to have that self-knowledge, but also to be able to communicate that to a partner.

And so when you ask about is it important for great sex to have technique,

It's more about it's important to be able to listen to what your partner is communicating they want and be responsive to that.

I'd say it's more about responsiveness than having this permanent bank of sexual techniques that's in your head, that's just your go-to, that's what you do during sex.

I'm programmed to be that way.

God forbid somebody not respond in the way I expect them to.

Right, right.

I mean, I think that luckily... I mean, I know where it is.

Of course.

For avoidance of doubt.

Of course, Max, I would never doubt.

Yeah.