Nicole McNichols

there there has been a movement of clitoracy right so i think that thank god more men now know now than they did 20 years ago but when you consider the fact that the clitoris was only fully mapped in 2006

by Helen O'Connell.

Before that, we kind of knew there was like something that was external that was called the clitoris.

But the fact that the clitoris actually has these really important internal structures to the crura and the vestibular bulbs that are integrated around the vagina, which means that

when you want to stimulate the clitoris, which is the main character when it comes to sexual pleasure for women, that there are ways to also stimulate the clitoris internally via the G-spot because you're really just getting the internal structures of the clitoris.

So even though a lot of guys will be like, oh, don't, you know, I know where the clitoris is.

I don't think many people really understand that, right?

Understand that there are this clito-urethral vaginal complex, which is just the orchestration, right, of all of these different places inside the vagina, external to the vulva that really work together to produce pleasure, right?

You know, we're just so stuck on this idea that penetrative sex is the end-all be-all, that it's the main course.

And penetrative sex can be absolutely incredible and connected and wonderful, but it only leads directly to orgasm for about 18% of women, right?

The rest, as many people know, about 82% require some kind of...

clitoral stimulation that's just direct, whether that's oral sex or fingering.

So I think that, you know, back to this question of how do you have better sex, it's understanding those pleasure myths that get in your way about what leads to pleasure for people, but also leaning into this idea of communication and curiosity.

It's really about leading with curiosity.

wow really yeah that is astonishing i mean i have i was not aware of that but you know what max i believe it i mean it's just just to think that there is that much misinformation and think about it i mean how are we like the disservice that we are doing to people by not you

giving them information about how their bodies work, I mean, that's just leaving people in the dark.

And I mean, what's wild is that when we look at countries, for example, where they do have sex positive, comprehensive sex education, like in the Netherlands,

We might think, and people tend to think, well, if you give young people actual anatomically correct, medically accurate information about sex, it's going to make them promiscuous, or it's going to make them have all sorts of sexual problems.

But the reality is that those countries that have access to that sex education, they have fewer rates of STIs, fewer unplanned pregnancies.

and less sexual assault and a higher rate of women who report a positive first time sexual experience.