Nir Eyal

Does it make me treat others better?

That's how we use these beliefs in our relationships.

Exactly.

So the opposite is, the exact opposite is true.

My mother is not too judgmental and hard to please.

To the other, I am too judgmental and hard to please.

And to the self, I am too judgmental and hard to please towards myself.

And then you could do, you know, variations.

It's not going to all be the same.

I literally do this type of exercise six, seven times a day whenever someone annoys me or I'm feeling like I'm not being myself or I'm saying something that I might later regret.

Now I catch myself and I can act with more patience, with more calm, more rationally than just letting my feelings control me through my beliefs.

Absolutely, yeah.

So one of the most fascinating studies that I came across was a study that found that wine, well, let me set up this.

I'll tell you all about it.

Okay, so they took people and they put them into an fMRI machine.

And fMRI machine measures blood flow in the brain, okay?

And when they were in this machine, they gave them a squirt of wine.

They said, this is a cheap bottle of wine, $5 bottle of wine, okay?

Tell us about it.

What do you think of this $5 bottle of wine?