Nir Eyal
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
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So which one of those four perspectives is the truth?
Which one is a fact?
None of them.
all of them, it doesn't matter because beliefs are tools, not truths.
The one belief that I had, that my mother is too judgmental and hard to please, that only had one solution.
There's only one way out of that.
She had to change so I could be happy.
Not gonna happen, okay?
That happens all the time in business, right?
That jerk said this and this, how could they do that?
Well, what you're essentially requiring is that they have to do something so I can be happy.
If you hold your breath, you're gonna suffocate.
That doesn't happen very often, right?
Rather, with those other three perspectives, whether they were true or not,
gave me more peace, allowed me to be myself.
I could act the way I was proud of as opposed to a way I regretted.
And that's the goal.
Is it true?
It doesn't matter.
What matters is does it make me better?