Nir Eyal
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
She was just saying a statement of fact, right?
That's how the flowers look to her.
Okay.
Maybe she was trying to be helpful and not hurtful.
Maybe she was just trying to make sure I didn't get scammed by this florist.
Okay.
Now I have two beliefs.
Let's do a third belief.
My mother is too judgmental and hard to please.
The opposite of that, I am too judgmental and hard to please.
Could that be true?
Well, to be honest, I had rehearsed in my mind that I deserved effusive praise for what I'd done.
And when that didn't appear, I lost it.
So who was being judgmental?
I was.
Okay, now we have three beliefs.
Let's try for our fourth.
I am too judgmental and hard to please towards myself.
That's also a turnaround.
That one was the hardest to accept, but turned out to be the most true.