Nir Eyal

With these other three beliefs, wow, I could free myself from that suffering.

Now it was something I could do.

She wasn't even in the room anymore.

And yet she was causing me suffering.

With these other three beliefs...

I could have a different perspective.

And what did that do?

Most importantly, these new liberating beliefs, what did that do to my motivation level to have a relationship with my mom?

I became more motivated to have a relationship with her.

I reduced my suffering day to day.

So that's what this line of research has done more than anything for me.

It doesn't make you have this superpower.

It reduces your suffering and increases your motivation to persist long enough to get the things that you really want in your life.

So our beliefs are definitely shaped from our priors, whether it's our culture, whether it's our upbringing, for sure.

That's where they come from.

All our beliefs come from these priors.

They also tend to spark what we are most...

what we value most.

So it could be that for you, being a little overweight wasn't that big of a deal.

It wasn't one of your insecurities.