Nir Eyal

Okay, third question.

Who am I when I hold this belief?

How do I feel?

Who do I become?

Well, I'm short-tempered, I'm not very nice, and I become this 13-year-old version of myself, which I don't really like.

Or the fourth question, who do I become when I let go of the belief?

How do I feel when I don't have that belief?

If I could wave a magic wand and tap myself on the head and poof, that belief disappears,

How do I feel?

Well, I would feel lighter.

I would feel more at ease.

I would feel less short-tempered.

I'd feel like myself.

So with just four questions in about 30 seconds, which by the way, you can substitute anyone in your life or even yourself or any situation, any limiting belief, you can run through these four steps.

I discovered that one, that thing that I thought was a fact was nothing more than a belief.

It wasn't a law of nature that my mom was too judgmental and hard to please.

It was just a belief.

I also discovered that belief wasn't serving me, that was making me feel pretty crappy, that was causing suffering in my life.

And that I didn't actually, I would feel much better if I didn't have that belief.

But then how do we get rid of it, right?