Nir Eyal

Well, here's where we do the turnaround.

Now, the process asks us to consider whether the exact opposite of what we think is a fact could also be true.

The exact opposite.

Now, disclaimer, when you do this, you will hate it.

You will hate it.

Your brain will find every possible reason to try and prove to you why what you think is a fact, even if it's just a belief.

Because if there's one thing I've learned is that the brain hates changing its mind.

The brain hates changing its mind.

Why?

Again, because in the past it served you.

It was safe to think that your mother was judgmental.

It was safe to think you're not good enough.

It was safe to think you're bad at this.

It was safe to think that you're not ready and this hurts and this is terrible judgment, all to protect you.

but we can't grow if we don't change our minds.

We just stay stuck.

So I gave into this process and here's what I did.

I took that statement, my mother's too judgmental and hard to please.

And I asked myself, could the exact opposite also be true?

Well, what's the opposite?