Nir Eyal
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
My mother is not too judgmental and hard to please.
How could that possibly be true?
Well, she was just saying a statement of fact, right?
The flowers looked half dead.
Okay, is that a judgment on me?
No.
She, maybe she was just trying to make sure I didn't get scammed from the florist.
So that's maybe trying to be helpful, not hurtful.
Okay, well now I have two beliefs.
Now let's try for a third.
Another opposite of my mother is too judgmental and hard to please.
The opposite would be, I am too judgmental and hard to please.
How could that be true?
Well, when I called her the next morning, I had scripted in my mind exactly the effusive praise that I deserved.
And when that praise didn't come, I lost it.
And I said something that I later regret.
So who exactly was being judgmental?
I was okay.
Here's another turnaround.
Here's the fourth one.