Noah Kagan

And a lot of what we talked about was like, what are you doing that makes you feel good about yourself? Like you drank last night. How did that make you feel? Like you're doing this type of activity. Like you're going on this date with a girl you don't want. How'd that make you feel? Like you're showing now with my partner Mafe, it's like, how am I showing up for her?

And a lot of what we talked about was like, what are you doing that makes you feel good about yourself? Like you drank last night. How did that make you feel? Like you're doing this type of activity. Like you're going on this date with a girl you don't want. How'd that make you feel? Like you're showing now with my partner Mafe, it's like, how am I showing up for her?

Am I actually aligning my priority to my behavior? And every time I do that, I'm like, like I cooked her some food two weeks ago. I was like, I'm proud of myself. I'm glad I could take care of you. Yeah, I'm really proud of myself. And all of us feel these different ways. It's not like some exclusive club where everyone's always feeling happy. Yeah. Right?

Am I actually aligning my priority to my behavior? And every time I do that, I'm like, like I cooked her some food two weeks ago. I was like, I'm proud of myself. I'm glad I could take care of you. Yeah, I'm really proud of myself. And all of us feel these different ways. It's not like some exclusive club where everyone's always feeling happy. Yeah. Right?

But it's doing things that make us feel good about ourselves that, frankly, it's all within our control. I think over years, you realize it's not external validation. It's like, how do we get more of the internal validation? That internal person that's like, hey, I'm doing pretty damn good myself, and that's okay.

But it's doing things that make us feel good about ourselves that, frankly, it's all within our control. I think over years, you realize it's not external validation. It's like, how do we get more of the internal validation? That internal person that's like, hey, I'm doing pretty damn good myself, and that's okay.

I've seen one or two. I don't know if I've seen three.

I've seen one or two. I don't know if I've seen three.

and around money, love and relationships. Different things, man. It doesn't happen all at once. Like even taking Million Dollar Weekend as an example, you know, I've worked for Zuckerberg. I helped start Mint.com. Like I've started so many different businesses that have made millions of dollars and I still felt afraid. Like, can I put a book out there that people actually want?

and around money, love and relationships. Different things, man. It doesn't happen all at once. Like even taking Million Dollar Weekend as an example, you know, I've worked for Zuckerberg. I helped start Mint.com. Like I've started so many different businesses that have made millions of dollars and I still felt afraid. Like, can I put a book out there that people actually want?

And can I actually even help them? And so I thought by hiring someone who's like the best around the world, I cold emailed him. Like, can you work on me with this book? He's like, sure. And so I paid him money. And I was like, okay, good. At least I don't have to do it. I don't have to face myself to see if I can actually write a book.

And can I actually even help them? And so I thought by hiring someone who's like the best around the world, I cold emailed him. Like, can you work on me with this book? He's like, sure. And so I paid him money. And I was like, okay, good. At least I don't have to do it. I don't have to face myself to see if I can actually write a book.

And then as the book got closer to having to submit the manuscript, as you know how it goes, I was like, this is not, I have to face myself with this book. I have to see if I can really do it. What did you not face? Actually writing a lot. We wrote the book together, but it was like, is this the book that I want to put my name on?

And then as the book got closer to having to submit the manuscript, as you know how it goes, I was like, this is not, I have to face myself with this book. I have to see if I can really do it. What did you not face? Actually writing a lot. We wrote the book together, but it was like, is this the book that I want to put my name on?

Is this a book that I can say, hey, if you're trying to start a business, there's some things about starting, building, and growing that I can help you with. And so I had to face the book. I had to face myself in actually writing the book. And yes, I worked on it lightly, but at a distance. And I think a lot of us do that. It's like, okay, well, let me avoid that thing.

Is this a book that I can say, hey, if you're trying to start a business, there's some things about starting, building, and growing that I can help you with. And so I had to face the book. I had to face myself in actually writing the book. And yes, I worked on it lightly, but at a distance. And I think a lot of us do that. It's like, okay, well, let me avoid that thing.

Let me avoid the relationship. Let me maybe avoid the work. And so then I basically like, I don't know if I'd call it hermit mode, but basically like sat in my room and more or less for about a month, just like heads down, worked with beta readers. And then I was like working on the scripts and all these things. And I was like... And then I was going with people.

Let me avoid the relationship. Let me maybe avoid the work. And so then I basically like, I don't know if I'd call it hermit mode, but basically like sat in my room and more or less for about a month, just like heads down, worked with beta readers. And then I was like working on the scripts and all these things. And I was like... And then I was going with people.

So every week we have five people going through the book. I had a guy living at my house about a month ago. And through doing it, I was like, oh, I can do this. I can do this. This works. And we all feel that. We all feel that in a lot of different ways. Maybe in a relationship. Maybe it's with work. Maybe it's with ourselves.

So every week we have five people going through the book. I had a guy living at my house about a month ago. And through doing it, I was like, oh, I can do this. I can do this. This works. And we all feel that. We all feel that in a lot of different ways. Maybe in a relationship. Maybe it's with work. Maybe it's with ourselves.