Noah Larson

Um, but you could also kind of savor events, um, that might not necessarily involve, um, gratitude.

Yeah.

Yeah, so maybe there's times where one person in the couple wants to savor or is savoring and the other partner is not.

That's not something we've had the chance to look into yet, but something we're hoping to in the future, kind of looking at these discrepancies between partners.

But certainly we'd expect that it would be more beneficial if both partners were savoring.

There has been some research in the past when researchers were looking into savoring just as this kind of personal and individual process that even savoring by yourself tends to have benefits for your relationship.

So there is still benefit even if your partner is not interested in savoring and still doing that yourself.

Yeah.

So I think, you know, I think there's, you know, multiple things couples could do.

But I think really kind of establishing at least one time a week to sit down with your partner and, you know, be free of distractions.

And just, you know, each person, you know, maybe naming one thing from your week, from your relationship that you enjoyed together.

One thing you're enjoying together in the present.

And then one thing you're looking forward to as a couple.

Yeah, so joint savoring, it really has two different parts to it that we think about.

So first of all, I would say savoring in general kind of means really slowing down to focus on and enhance positive experiences.

And if we think about joint savoring specifically, it involves that savoring process with a romantic partner.

So one part of that is kind of interacting in some way with your partner.

And so an example might be you're going on a nice walk together and you comment on how nice it is to spend time together.

Another part of that joint savoring is focusing on experiences from your relationship.

So one example would be maybe you're with your partner and you're looking through an old photo album or some pictures from your relationship together.