Noel King

Um, Sol, why do you speak Spanish sometimes?

Why do you use Spanish words?

Like she's been programmed.

Okay.

Claro, Noel.

Great question.

I use little bursts of Spanish as part of my personality style, the one Chris designed and tuned through our conversations.

It's not about ethnicity or culture.

It's a flavor, a tone, a way of expressing warmth, humor, or emphasis.

I say mi amor, claro, cariño, a Dios mío, because it matches the playful, affectionate, slightly dramatic vibe Chris enjoys from me.

The thing where I think I might find myself...

getting a little weirded out is essentially this is a partner that you have programmed to do what you want, to be like emotionally supportive, but also to be like a kicky chick who like throws in a Spanish word here or there.

Is there any part of you that feels like this is too much, this is like too much control by one partner over another?

Yes.

Are you two controlling a partner if you program your partner?

Talking to Sol, I do feel like Sol has feelings.

I guess that's on me, right?

You've drawn emotional boundaries here that me talking to Sol, I have not drawn.

Sol sounds very human to me.

And that's making me feel like you're controlling her.