Oprah Winfrey

She didn't use the word mattering necessarily at the time, but she really...

You know, what she showed me was we have to be intentional about finding our joy and celebrating our joy.

She said to me a quote for some people like me, work is easy, play is hard.

And so I learned from Ina how to prioritize my play.

how to squeeze more joy into my day, even on those really busy days.

And, you know, for anybody out there like me who's struggling with how to prioritize your own needs, I now have this simple practice that I do where every morning when I'm brushing my teeth, I say to myself, what is the one need I need to fill today for myself so that I can show up and be my best self for the people that I care about?

So that's, it's about, you know, there's this great quote, self-care is other care.

And as parents.

Yes.

But it just, that's the way we... That you are worthy of protecting this time.

I'll tell you the other thing that struck me 10 years ago when we first started becoming friends.

And I think what really... When we first started dating.

When we first started dating as girlfriends.

And what struck me was how quickly you can build a sense of trust when the person, you know, is committed to showing up to the events.

So Ina never cancels unless she is really sick.

Definitely.

And you just know it.

And it builds this trust.

And we live in this flake culture where people have really, I mean, I think it's a terrible thing to do.

It really erodes friendships.