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The devaluation of the women and girls in your life.

that that void that it creates allows that kind of underworld um and it feeds off of um off of that you know it becomes a neurological change yeah i remember jamina jamil talking about the manosphere or toxic masculinity and obviously these are big buzzwords right now and she was like we have to pity these people sexual crime needs to feel the full face of the law

But something has happened.

There has been a break along the way.

And I think when it comes to this kind of material, it's like rocket fuel.

The problem is, if you don't understand the normalization of this kind of content, for the people who are really struggling, one, it prevents them being able to find the help.

Because it means that there's not really a big deal.

People often ask, what's the big deal about it?

Everybody looks at porn.

So if we accept that young boys are looking at porn, young girls are looking at porn, and that they're using this as the model, and it's affecting their relationships, and they're having erectile dysfunction, and...

They're dissociating from their lives and not wanting to speak to their friends and they're feeling more isolated and they're feeling depressed.

They can't get out of that because we don't understand that it's a real issue.

But then societally, if we don't accept that...

there is a complete normalization of this.

It means that that whole undercurrent is allowed to exist.

Because if we don't understand that there are harms that come with consuming something that is essentially a drug, you know, there is a fantasy element to it, but you're using it in a sexual way.

If you do that over time, like, you know, there's research that will tell us that

that kind of overexposure to that kind of content is the same neurological change as if you give someone a class A drug.

It's creating a different synaptic pathway in your mind.

And if that is how you are repeatedly looking at what sex looks like,